Do Not Lose Yourself

"Love creates an "us" without destroying the "me."  - Leo Buscaglia

Love really is about people coming together to support each other. All the little tricks and games they play to get their needs met are just that, tricks and games.It would be so much simpler if we honored ourselves and trusted our partners enough to ask for what we need. Instead, we wait for them to figure it out; if they don't, we hold them responsible. What a cruel trick! When we let our partners know up front what we need, we have a greater chance of having the needs met. We must know that our needs are important. Whether it's hugs and kisses, foot rubs, reassurance or Hershey syrup and whipped cream, our needs do matter. Once we let our partners know what we need, we must accept their honest answer as to whether or not they can meet those needs. If they cannot, we must then decide if these are people we want in our lives.

I honor my needs by letting my mate know what they are.

"Loving someone and pleasing someone are two different things." - Jerry Jampolski

In all of our relationships there comes a time when we must do what we know is right, regardless of what that thing might be. If we love someone, we want the best for them. It may not make them happy; it probably won't be easy; but loving someone does not mean allowing them to hurt themselves. It certainly doesn't mean you must allow them to hurt you. 

In loving you I will not lose myself.

"For a love to grow through the tests of everyday living, one must respect that zone of privacy where one retires to relate to the inside instead of the outside." - Kahlil Gibran

Everybody needs a little time and space where they can go to be alone. What this is called in a relationship is "the danger zone." We all need those few little things that we have for ourselves. It could be a thing, place, an activity or something we cannot share. What this can look like in a relationship is "what is mine is theirs." Everyone has that special thing that they just love to do. What this feels like in a relationship is "I'm going out without you." If you want your relationship to grow and flourish and your loved one to remain loving and kind, give them the time, space and opportunity to go and make contact with their own minds.

Today I will let you be with yourself.

Voluntary Simplicity : A Guide To The Twenty First Century

The notion of voluntary simplicity hinges on the idea that knowing when you've had enough is the key to financial independence and to enjoying your stuff more. It's not about renunciation of wealth or social engagement: it's about focus. If you want to be able to work less, or retire early, the trick is to weigh out what you buy, what you need, and what you'll want in the future. " To live more voluntarily is to live more deliberately, intentionally and purposefully - in short, it is to live more consciously. We cannot be deliberate when we are distracted from life. We cannot be intentional when we are not paying attention. We cannot be purposeful when we are not being present. Therefore, to act voluntarily is to be aware of ourselves as we move through life.

*Note: If you are interested in creating a more authentic life please check out Dan Price's Creating An Authentic Life


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