Monday, August 31, 2015

☜ The End | The Beginning ☞

 If you want know the end, look at the beginning.

Wherever you are in your heart and mind at the moment at the outset of a relationship is where you will be at the end. Whatever you bring to the start of the relationship is what you will have to clean up in the end. You cannot begin a relationship in dishonesty and deceit and hope to experience an honest end. If you run into a relationship to get get away from another, you will run into another one to get away from this one. If you enter a relationship in fear, anger or grief, you stand a pretty good chance of finding more of the same. If you enter a relationship in sadness, desperation and pain, guess what? You will find it again. If we want to put an end to angry, bitter and ugly separations, we must begin relationships with the open, loving honesty we say we want. If we do not know who we are and how we feel at any time, it is best that we stay alone. 

 I will be better at the beginning to avoid anything worse at the end. 

Anything dead coming back hurts.

If you keep going in and out of the same relationship, chances are you are going to get hurt. People come together in relationship to learn. Once you learn your lesson it is time to move on. Take your lesson from the last time and move on to something new. If you insist on drinking from the same used cup, you will eventually get sick. You can do the same old things in just so many ways until you lose track of what you are doing. How many ways can you cry? How many ways can you hurt? How many ways can you convince yourself that you can make this work? When a relationship is over, you must learn to let go. No matter how much you love the other person, or how afraid you are that you will never love again, you cannot squeeze juice from a piece of dry fruit, so don't bother to try.

When it is over, I am on to the next thing.

Thursday, August 27, 2015

A Vision For Oneness

It is your moral duty to be happy; however, you cannot exercise this duty by clutching unrealistic beliefs, struggling with unworkable assumptions, juggling painful images, jumping to false conclusions, running with impulsive decisions or massaging hasty judgments.

 - Sufi Hazarat Inayat Khan

Too often we expect happiness to come as a result of our relationships rather than as a premise upon which to build one. If we truly wanted to be happy, we would not be so eager to sacrifice happiness for nonsense -- for jealousy, possessiveness, anger, fear or any other function of the ego. Nonsense renders us downright miserable. Happiness requires that we be honest, trusting, trustworthy, respectful and mutually considerate. 

We cannot realize true happiness when we entertain nonsense in our hearts and minds. Individually and collectively, we must work to clear ourselves before entering a relationship. If we wait until we are in the process and wading through nonsense, the ego will be well on the way to eroding the happiness we seek. 

 I will exercise my duty to be happy. 

A Vision For Oneness 

We envision a world where we understand on an individual level that we are all truly One at the higher levels of consciousness. This vision allows each of us to realize that even though we may appear to be separate from each other in a physical sense, in ultimate reality everything in existence is made up of Source Energy that is in relationship to and interacts with all of life.

We envision a world where we understand that we are all one in our collective consciousness as well. We see a world where we consciously co-create a new world model through this collective consciousness using the concept of Oneness as a critical component of our creative abilities as a global community.

This Vision of Oneness is the catalyst for each of us to individually take responsibility for our own thoughts, words and actions and thereby everything that we create into our lives. As we envision the concept of being one with all things seen and unseen we revel in the idea that everything we do in life has an effect on all of life as a whole and we therefore happily create the highest good for ourselves and for all others.

As a result we see a world where every person realizes that the best way to serve themselves is to serve all others because in the biggest scheme of life we are all One. The Golden Rule pervades our relationships and life choices as we realize totally and completely that what we do for others we are actually doing for ourselves and what we do for ourselves affects all of existence.

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

F r e e d o m

Spend time alone in objective thought as you consider the direction of your life.
I Ching (The Receptive)

The entire purpose of life here on Earth is for people to be free. Why then do we spend so much time acquiring things to make us comfortable and tie us down? Our possessions keep us in bondage to jobs, debts, situations and conditions. We spend precious time fighting with one another as to the right way to fight for the freedom we want. 

Women want to be free. We sit idly as men control the markets, industries and services that are essential to our survival. Women complain that men oppress them, yet at the same time they believe the things men say women cannot do. 

Men say they want to be free. The average man spends his average day watching someone else, wondering what someone else is doing, believing someone else is waiting for an opportunity to take what he has. 

What's the matter with these pictures? We will never be free as long as we need something or someone else to give it to us. Freedom is a state of mind, not a tangible condition. 

Affirmation: I surrender everything to my freedom.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Let's Talk About Mates (^.^)

Only choose to marry a being whom you would choose as a friend if they were the opposite sex.

We often have such unrealistic expectations of our mates that it is as if we do not want them to measure up. We want them to be like, act like, behave like some idealistic model we have cooked up in our minds. The problem is that we never reveal to them what the model is. We hold them accountable and responsible to satisfy our desires, but we forget to tell them what our desires are. We mus remember that our mates are people. They are not mind readers. We are asking for disappointment when we do not share with them our expectations. We complain to friends, compare them to family members; why not talk to the one person that could probably help set things right? 

We should talk to our mates as if they are our friends. Reveal to them those parts of us that we have hidden from the world. And if in our hearts of hearts we cannot do this, we need to ask ourselves, "Why am I with this person?"

Affirmation: I want more than a mate, I want a friend.

If you know what you want, you will recognize it when you see it. 

When we convince ourselves that we can't find the right mate, we try to make the one we have into the one we want. There are two ways to do this. First, we need to see who we have and tell ourselves they are someone different. The other way is to try and fix what we have. Neither idea works. 

When we are not honest with ourselves about who our mate really is, we end up disillusioned and disappointed. It is not their fault, it is our own. We must be clear about what we want from a relationship whether it is social, business or intimate. Then we must make a decision to wait for exactly what we want. If who we have is not who we want, say so! It is not our job to change the other person. If we buy a pair of shoes and they don't fit, should we wear them and suffer or take them back to the store? 

Affirmation: Who I want is important enough for me to wait for. 

Friday, August 7, 2015

Your mate is your mirror. 

Many of us think that we are lucky or blessed when we find just the right person to love. By now we know that nothing in life is an accident, including our selection of a mate. The people who come into our lives are a reflection of who we are. They reveal to us those things we cannot or refuse to see about ourselves. The very thing we don't like about our mate is the thing we need to change. The thing we love about the other person is a hidden, undeveloped or unrecognized asset that we have. 

 We can only draw to us those people who are on our ray, our level of energy and development. They reflect back to us the very things we  do. Most of us reject this idea. But then most of us reject criticism, too. We find it difficult to accept those things about us that others see. We do, however, feel completely justified when we criticize our mates. Here's a question for you: How would you know what to call what you see in your mate unless you had seen it somewhere else?

Affirmation: I am looking in the mirror of self and making adjustments in me.

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Vibratory Signature of Consciousness

Each of us is stamped with vibratory signature of our own state of consciousness. 
- Paramahansa Yoganada 

 We become very offended if someone says we don't measure up of if they criticize our actions. We think they are picking on us because of our ethnicity, gender or because "they" have a problem. We must consider what they are actually saying before we dismiss what could be valuable criticism. Consider the things we think about ourselves: "I'm not good enough," I'm not smart enough," "I didn't do it right," "So and so did it better than me," "I don't know what I'm doing," and so on. Life is an accurate reflection of our consciousness. People will usually say to us they very things we think to ourselves. If we want others to speak well of us, we must first think well of ourselves. The next time someone criticizes you, think, "Where have I heard that before?"

Affirmation: I think positively about me and speak positively to me.

We are each born with limitless capacity for pleasure and enjoyment.
- Sondra Ray 

Relationships do not just happen. No matter how we meet our mate or who makes the introduction, we create all the relationships we experience. We each have the capacity to bring to ourselves the exact relationship we want. Unfortunately, most of us are not willing to do the work. We must begin the work by looking at the "self" and getting clear about how it feels. We cannot expect to attract a loving, generous mate if we are angry and withholding. We must stop blaming the past for our condition now. Wherever we are, what we have or don't have is no one's fault but our own. If by chance someone else made a contribution to the mess we were creating, forgive them the mess and move on. Finally, we must give thanks for all we have been; all we have had; all we are becoming. When we take the limits, restrictions and fears off our hearts, our cup of love will run over.

Affirmation: I will look at me before I look for love.

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