Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Like An Atom Bomb

When you say "I love you", you are actually saying you have awakened a place in me where I am love. - John Rogers

Deep within our being is a place of peace, joy and knowing. It is a place called love. We are not taught to live from that place for ourselves. We are taught to shower it on others. We do for others what we will not do for ourselves. We give to others what we think we do not deserve. We turn to others for the very feeling that comes from self. We are love from the core of our being. It is the energy by which  we are born. We breathe love. We see love. We have our being in love. Why can't we learn to love ourselves the same way we love others? If we can live from our being of love, we can't help but attract more of what we are. Love is what we are. When we know that and live through it, we can live "in love" with ourselves. 

Affirmation: I Am Love.

A relationship is placing one's heart and soul in the hands of another while taking charge of another one's soul and heart. - Kahlil Gibran

When we enter a relationship, we don't often think or see beyond the physical being. We are attracted to the body, face or personality. We may like what the person does or how they do it and want to be a part of that. We may even experience a pull from within that we can't actually explain. But how often do we stop to consider the true depth of the person we are attracted to? There is a being before us who has a past, present and future. There are flesh and bones, hurts and scars, feelings, thoughts and ideals. When we enter the world of another being we must be willing to be a part of it all. When someone entrusts their heart to you they are giving you a piece of their soul. You cannot treat a soul casually. You must protect, nurture and handle it with care. Our interactions with one another go far beyond the face, body and hair. One other thing we must consider when we enter someone's heart, there is a heart and soul inside of us which they will play a part. 

Affirmation: I respect the heart, mind and soul of my friends and lovers.

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

I'm a Road Runner

Experience is a good teacher. but she runs up big bills. - Minna Antrim

If life is about learning and growing, why do we think our relationships are beyond life's classroom? Every relationships -family, friendship, love and marriage - is about growth and development. There are certain skills we need. Certain strengths we must develop. Certain lessons we must learn. Our relationships provide the perfect framework for us. We come together to share. learn and grow. Once we have acquired the skill, imparted the information or learned the lesson, it is time for something else. It is time to move on. That my feel like, "You don't love me anymore." What it actually says is, "You don't have anything else to give me." If we could move beyond the emotion of it and look for growth, ending a relationship, moving out of a family or friendship would be a great deal less painful.  We want to learn how to be grateful for everything we get in our relations. Somewhere beyond the grief, fear, pain and disappointment is a mighty lesson just waiting to be learned.

Affirmation: Every encounter is an experience of growth.  

No matter what is happening in your relationships, fear nothing and no one. When you walk with the consciousness of the Creator, there is nothing to fear. 

Do Not Fear:
  • That people will harm you or leave you
  • Obstacles that confront you
  • Disapproval
  • Criticism
  • Judgement
  • Being Alone

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

This Is Gospel

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a process; working together is success.

Whether in business or personal relationships, what makes working together so difficult is the individual need to be right and to have things our way. As long as we have a position to hold on to we cannot come together or work together. If we are not willing to bend, we will somehow get in the way. We must get clear about what we are doing, why we are doing it and who we are working with. Only with an honest examination of our motives and intent can we surrender to any working or loving process. If we enter any collective agreement for only personal goals and with mental garbage, the stability of the group is jeopardized by our dishonest foundation. If we come together in honesty, work together in clarity, we can stay together with respect and meet any goal successfully.

Affirmation: I respect myself enough to respect the working process.

Most people enjoy the inferiority of their friends, real friends don't notice it.

Many people believe it is their responsibility to stay in relationships, communities and situations to prove they are true blue. Nothing could be further from the truth! We owe it to our dreams to place ourselves in an environment that provides and supports the things we want. We have a right to peace, prosperity and success, even when it means we leave our past behind. Growth requires that we want to broaden our scope. To move beyond those things and people who are familiar to us does not mean we are leaving them behind. It means we are clearing a path for them to follow, if they choose to.

Affirmation: New friends are silver, old friends are gold.

Friday, September 18, 2015

Do Not Lose Yourself

"Love creates an "us" without destroying the "me."  - Leo Buscaglia

Love really is about people coming together to support each other. All the little tricks and games they play to get their needs met are just that, tricks and games.It would be so much simpler if we honored ourselves and trusted our partners enough to ask for what we need. Instead, we wait for them to figure it out; if they don't, we hold them responsible. What a cruel trick! When we let our partners know up front what we need, we have a greater chance of having the needs met. We must know that our needs are important. Whether it's hugs and kisses, foot rubs, reassurance or Hershey syrup and whipped cream, our needs do matter. Once we let our partners know what we need, we must accept their honest answer as to whether or not they can meet those needs. If they cannot, we must then decide if these are people we want in our lives.

I honor my needs by letting my mate know what they are.

"Loving someone and pleasing someone are two different things." - Jerry Jampolski

In all of our relationships there comes a time when we must do what we know is right, regardless of what that thing might be. If we love someone, we want the best for them. It may not make them happy; it probably won't be easy; but loving someone does not mean allowing them to hurt themselves. It certainly doesn't mean you must allow them to hurt you. 

In loving you I will not lose myself.

"For a love to grow through the tests of everyday living, one must respect that zone of privacy where one retires to relate to the inside instead of the outside." - Kahlil Gibran

Everybody needs a little time and space where they can go to be alone. What this is called in a relationship is "the danger zone." We all need those few little things that we have for ourselves. It could be a thing, place, an activity or something we cannot share. What this can look like in a relationship is "what is mine is theirs." Everyone has that special thing that they just love to do. What this feels like in a relationship is "I'm going out without you." If you want your relationship to grow and flourish and your loved one to remain loving and kind, give them the time, space and opportunity to go and make contact with their own minds.

Today I will let you be with yourself.

Voluntary Simplicity : A Guide To The Twenty First Century

The notion of voluntary simplicity hinges on the idea that knowing when you've had enough is the key to financial independence and to enjoying your stuff more. It's not about renunciation of wealth or social engagement: it's about focus. If you want to be able to work less, or retire early, the trick is to weigh out what you buy, what you need, and what you'll want in the future. " To live more voluntarily is to live more deliberately, intentionally and purposefully - in short, it is to live more consciously. We cannot be deliberate when we are distracted from life. We cannot be intentional when we are not paying attention. We cannot be purposeful when we are not being present. Therefore, to act voluntarily is to be aware of ourselves as we move through life.

*Note: If you are interested in creating a more authentic life please check out Dan Price's Creating An Authentic Life

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Rest and Think About It Again

Today's Agenda:
  • A Vision For Conscience
  • LOOKBOOK Feature: Yaki Man / Sky Isn't The Limit
  • "Eight" or Better
  • LOOKBOOK Feature: Brooke Testoni / Taking It Off The Shoulder
  • Vulnerability, A Gift
  • LOOKBOOK Feature: AKin_Hon / AKin_Hon

A Vision for Conscience

 We see a world where we have all realized that what we think, say, and do has an effect on everyone and everything else; where those of us who previously caused harm to another, supported people or institutions who harmed others, or brought destruction to the land, fully see that what we have done has affected the world around us. We see a world where we no longer distance ourselves from the feelings of those we've hurt, or the Nature we've uncaringly disrupted, and in doing so, our consciences have awakened. Now we know to never harm again; we know, without doubt or equivocation, that what we do, either consciously or unconsciously, to others always comes back to haunt us in return. And, as a result, each and every man, woman, and child who walks this Earth now honors and respects everyone else. We treat others as we would want to be treated because we have developed a conscience.

"Make all of your relationships an "eight" or better." - John Salunek

On a scale where one is low and ten is high, we want to live as close to ten as possible. We want to give and get the best in our relationships. Whether is is a friendship, love affair or business relationship, we must not allow mediocrity to be the standard. When we have no standards our lives become so crowded  with people, demands, and unrealistic expectations that we run the risk of losing ourselves. An "eight" relationship is one where there is mutual support and respect. We can be who we are and know we are accepted on that basis. There are common goals; even when we disagree on method, we can support the intent. 

 In an "eight" relationship we give for the joy of giving. We share for mutual growth. We give and get complete honesty. We take what we need and do not fail to give back. An "eight" relationship is one that we do not work on. It is one we work with and for, striving for better as a mutual benefit. "One" means you don't  have it. "Six" is just making it. An "eight" means you are definitely on the way to the top. 

Affirmation: There is no reason I must settle for less.

"Vulnerability is the gift I give to those I trust myself." - Terry Kellogg and Marvel Harrison

Just because people are nice to us and don't ask anything in return, does not mean there is something wrong with them. It is often hard for us to believe people can like us simply for who we are. Benny, A White Man, was willing to give Frank, A Black Man, a kidney. Frank wouldn't accept it. He has known Benny for three short weeks. Frank knew very little about Benny. But he knew Benny must have a hidden agenda. Nobody gives a kidney away for nothing. Frank confronted Benny with his anger, suspicion and fear. Quietly Benny replied, " I know you like to go fishing. I know you are a good father and a loving husband. I know because that 's what you've shown me. Based on what I've seen, I know you don't deserve to die." 

 Frank accepted the kidney. Benny moved to Arizona and never saw Frank again. 

Affirmation: Blessings come in all colors and forms. I get the ones I deserve. 

Thursday, September 3, 2015

Love Is In The Midst Of Me

How do you know when you are really in love? First of all, you would not have to ask the question. Love is knowing, it is not a condition or state of mind. When you are loving, you are not doubting, judging, or fearing; you are in a state of acceptance. You accept yourself first, for who and what you are, and then the person you love, without question. You do not want to fix him, change him, control him or help him. You want for the person you love exactly what she wants for herself. When you are in love, you feel vulnerable and know that it is okay. You do not hide your feelings, change them to fix what you think the other person wants, and you do not question what you feel. When you are in love, you give, expecting nothing in return, not even love. Love is an inner process between you and yourself that you want to share with someone, everyone. Love is free. If your quest is to own, control, hold on to, protect or take care of someone, they cannot be free and you are not in love. Love is never wrong, seldom right. It just is.

When self-respect takes its rightful place in the psyche, you will not allow yourself to be manipulated by anyone.

Loving, wanting or being with someone else is absolutely no reason to abuse, neglect or disrespect yourself. In all of our relationships, we can only give what we have. When we have a sense of self, an honest consciousness of our needs, a clear concept of what we want, we can respect ourselves. We set the standard of how we want to be treated; it remains our responsibility to make sure that anyone and everyone who comes into our lives treats us as well or better than we treat ourselves. If we are not honest without ourselves, how can we expect others to be honest with us? If we do not expect and give the best to ourselves, from where do we think it will come? Our relationships can only be reflections of the relationships that we have with ourselves.

 If I love, honor and respect me -- you must do the same.